Ep 15 – How to Attract Love with Visionary Leader Shannon Graham


Can love be found? If yes, how?

I am often asked by expats, locals, and singles in Dubai and around the globe “how can I find love?” or “how do I find the right husband/wife?” or “why do I keep finding the wrong boyfriend/girlfriend?” It is not surprising to discover that people today are having a hard time ‘finding’ the right partner. But what if there was a different way to look at it?

In episode 15 of The Relationships Architect show I interview Shannon Graham. This is a man who at some point used to be homeless, unclear about what he wanted in life, but turned highly successful and profitable entrepreneur who is now happily engaged and in love with his fiance, Lindsey.


So what’s the story?

I found Shannon in a featured article in Forbes magazine where he was interviewed as a coach who made $ 750,000 in annual revenue. This is a one-man show, mind you, of a person who started with absolutely nothing! Incredible, right? But then I found out he was interviewed on many shows to showcase his brilliance behind the success of his business. I couldn’t help but wonder “what is his love life like?”

After connecting with him on Facebook I saw that he was – and still is – engaged to a lovely lady. So I reached out to him for an interview on my show and found that I had opened a treasure box filled with wisdom and valuable insights around what it means to be a man, entrepreneur, lover, and how to navigate through a relationship intelligently.


A successful relationship is a partnership between two successful people ~ Shannon Graham


Most people today think they have to go for counseling in Dubai or in other parts of the world to be able to find themselves and understand how the heck they will ever find someone special in their lives. After all, dating can be difficult to experience nowadays because of the impatience many people have towards their date!

Shannon shared some interesting insights that I believe will benefit you. It wasn’t complicated for him to attract Lindsey into his life. All he had to do was one thing. But first, here are his insights:

He asked himself “how do I communicate with myself?”

The biggest issue that many counselors, books, therapists, and relationship experts are trying to solve today is communication. But isn’t it interesting that people are told they should fix communication between them and their partners, but rarely with self? Shannon started there. He made sure that the way he communicated with himself was empowering, clear, and appreciative of who he is as a man and human being.

Get clear on who you will become, first, in a relationship

If I had a penny for the number of people who walked around with lists trying to convince the world that this is exactly the kind of person they want to spend their lives with I would have become a billionaire by now. They ask for too much on that list and forget that be curious about who they will become in a relationship. That is, what kind of person are they going to be in that partnership regardless of who their significant other is? With this focus, people learn to be themselves instead of trying to get someone to be themselves for them.

Raise your standards

Raise your standards, not expectations, so that you meet or keep someone who deserves to treat you in a certain way. You cannot live with unrealistic expectations, if any at all, but instead you can develop a set of principles – standards – that are important to you which eventually build your character into becoming an even better, stronger, and more loving version of yourself. Don’t settle for less. But also don’t live with an unrealistic set of standards. In other words, be real, authentic, and raw.



The genius thing Shannon did was that he worked on himself

If there is anything I have learned from my 9 years of experience and interviewing experts and couples in this field of relationships it’s that love starts with attraction, not a search. And in order for people to become magnetic, attractive, and desirable, they must work on strengthening that magnet; themselves. But going about in this life trying to find love is just exhasuting and barely yields any good results for people nowadays.


Love starts with attraction, not a search ~ Khaled Ghorab


I really encourage you to look inwards and discover the brilliance inside of you so that the world gets to see it. As Shannon Graham put it, there is a difference between having the gift and being the gift. I invite you to be the gift. And in order to do so, stop the search and start working on becoming attractive. In order to do that, start with discovering what your values are, define your direction in life, connect with like-minded individuals and groups, get a relationships coach, attend seminars, read books, listen to podcasts and educational material… There is so much you can do to become that magnetic and desirable version of yourself!

My belief is that people deserve love, and so do you.

I’ll catch you next week, my friends.

Episode 13 – 3 Keys to Lasting Love

There is a shared belief amongst many men and women today that I found to be limiting their ability to attract or keep a passionate relationship; they believe that after all the effort put into their love life, love will eventually fade. And so, they fear being in love. For some reason, this belief is so strong to the point that the majority of people I’ve interviewed and coached mentioned that sometimes it scares them to be in a relationship.

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Podcast Episode 12 – Men Rule The World…? with Abdullah Al Qassab

Abdullah Al Qassab is was very interested in psychology and the general structures of society and the people around him, Abdullah initially became involved in smaller charitable projects which then grew with his own development.

This is also the time when Abdullah discovered his talent and passion for words. He embarked on a series of courses on public speaking, coaching and mentoring, leadership and presentation skills to hone these skills and better share his ideas and passion with/for the people around him. These days, Abdullah is using his talents to inspire, and for good causes. Describing his fellow Emirati youth as “in large parts a lost generation” due to the lack of guidance and role models, he brings enlightenment to them in his public lectures by creating links between history and modern day life, by raising awareness within the audience of their inherent and acquired skills by “connecting the dots” between their aspirations and their achievements, and by teaching them a things or two about being human.

Combining a solid foundation of broad knowledge with a strong sense of humour, Abdullah ensures that the core message is not only heard but also understood no matter who the audience is and which age bracket they ascribe themselves to.

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Podcast Episode 11 – F&B Businesses Do NOT Know How to Handle Positive Feedback

I have attempted to share positive feedback with so many restaurants, coffee shops, and other F&B businesses over and over again. But what I noticed was that they seem to be pushing it away! Yes! They push positive feedback away!  In this episode I share why they do that and how they recover from such a reoccurring mistake.

Podcast Episode 10 – From Couple to Power Team with Tim & Ness

Ever wondered what’s better than being just a couple? Become a Power Team! That’s what our guests today have in store for us! Tim and Ness are a couple from Melbourne, Australia who dedicate their lives to learning, growing & leading in the area of relationships because they believe that it’s our relationships, and particularly our intimate relationships, that bring us the biggest opportunity for personal growth and true fulfilment in our lives. To them relationships are our vehicle for reaching our fullest potential in life and in love, and they are always striving to create and grow extraordinary relationships.

They co-host ‘The Relationship Revolution Show’ which is a 5 times per week podcast for those who want extraordinary relationships and an even higher quality of life. They dive into all relationship topics, plus interview super couples who are winning at relationships along with world class experts in the very same field. They are on a mission to give their audience (they call them ‘the revolutionaries’) the best mindset, tools & strategies to create extraordinary relationships. You can check their show out by visiting the link in this episode’s show notes.

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Podcast Episode 9 – How to Move on From a Breakup (Love Life)

Breakups can be tough for most of us after we have had strong emotions towards that love partner for a period of time. We have a hard time, however, navigating through the pain and could possibly even hurt ourselves in the process even more. I recorded this episode to help you move past this chaos in a much better and smoother way.

Much love,

Podcast Episode 8 – ‘Just Read It’, He Said… with Omar Al Busaidy

Omar Al Busaidy is an Emirati entrepreneur, a Global Shaper at the World Economic Forum, and the author of the successful book ‘Just Read It’. With a passion for learning, growing, and contributing to society he has set out to writing a book that is so simple, yet so impactful for youth and generations to come. Celebrities in the UAE are already reading it! His passion for relationships is something we dive deep into because of his position at the World Economic Forum and his ability to network relentlessly. Got me really curious how he does it.

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Podcast Episode 7 – Become a Heart Master with Hanan Al Sammak

Hanan Al Sammak, a Half Kuwaity half Emirati woman, is the author of a book as well as a self-help YouTube channel both called “Hayatech” (which means Your Life in English). This woman is on a mission and it’s all about bringing positive change to society.

Her journey and work aims to reset the cultural uniformity in our communities today by spreading social justice as well as providing powerful intellectual, spiritual, and life changing tools for people who suffer from daily negative challenges. But most of all, this woman has a big heart! Her personal story will inspire you to look past your challenges in life and want to be a force for greatness for yourself and others.

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Podcast Episode 6 – How Adventure Reignites Relationships with Bradley Festraests

Bradley Festraets, a passionate adventurer, is the man behind Big Red Motorsports (Insta: @bigreddxb)in Dubai, UAE, a dune bashing tours business that takes people on these adventure rides to the unseen beautiful terranes in the UAE.

His trials and tribulations in life along with riding have taught him so much about how to become a better man, embrace uncertainty, and how to openly love. Bradley shares with us why the ingredient of adventure can positively impact our love lives, how a relationship is actually a tribe on its own, and of course, how he proposed to his lovely woman who is his fiancé today.

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