I am in the business of building influential generations that lead from the heart.
I grew up in my childhood looking around for answers to the single most forgotten question: “Why do people create conflict?” It wasn’t necessarily about conflict being wrong, but the fact that people around me – relatives, parents, friends, neighbours, and friends – can recreate the same issues and argue about them repeatedly baffled me.
I had nothing back then as a child. I wasn’t a psychologist or even at the level of education that could get me to answer that question properly.
But I was armed with curiosity.
I discovered as I was growing up that I was picking up those people’s habits, beliefs, values, and eventually behaviour. I learned a lot of things from them that limited ability to connect with and influence people around me especially in the relationships department. I learned:
- To have an unclear sense of who I am; my identity was shaken
- To have live in the past and hold on tightly to my baggage in my relationships and life
- To disengage in conversations until I pile up so much resentment and explode in anger
- To have a deep and silent fear of intimacy while never knowing what it’s like to honour my own gender needs and desires
At some point, I had to take charge of my life and start a long and deep process of transformation in me so that I can remove those behaviours. They got in the way every single time I wanted to create a relationship or even grow as a human being. After years of therapy, coaching, training, healing, travelling the world, living in Europe, UK, and USA, reading hundreds of books, I discovered that the conflict I created outside (thanks to those behaviours I learned from my surroundings) were a clear reflection of the conflict happening inside of me. And, the only way to make changes was not going to be by trying to fix the problems I had with people in my personal or professional life, but rather make changes inside of me.
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Looking around today I can only notice (and observe) that couples today are facing the same issue. Look at the statistics from the UAE mentioned in this article from Gulf News published 10th May 2016.
“Around 33 per cent of divorces among UAE nationals in the emirate of Abu Dhabi took place within the first year of marriage. Additionally, 60 per cent of divorced husbands and 64 per cent of divorced wives have a high school degree or lower educational qualification.”
This is Abu Dhabi, UAE alone. Now look at the top 10 countries with the highest divorce rates in the world. With USA ranking in at number 10 with 53% divorce rate and Belgium scoring number 1 in the list with 71%, it is safe to say that the numbers are astounding!
So how is it possible that with all the information available to us today that divorce rates are so high in the world and continue to rise?
It’s because our definition of and approach to creating successful relationships and marriages are outdated. But more importantly, the probably of people having not dealt with the rapid changes in society along with their internal world’s challenges is high.
“A relationship is like a cup of coffee; what you put in it defines its taste.”
When we get really clear on what ingredients we individually add to (or remove from) that cup, we start to become aware of the experience that we created in that relationship, because at the end of the day both partners in it drink from that very same cup of coffee.
For me to be able to help those men and women create a really tasty cup of coffee that awakens their senses consistently I had to FIRST help myself do that for me. That is, I had to tackle the core issue of relationships in my life first.
After my trip to Europe, USA, and UK, hiring the world’s elite coaches for 8+ years, reading select and specific books about relationships with self and people, and taking a deep dive into my internal world and childhood through therapy and counselling, it was clear that I had to create, build, and nurture the most important relationship of all: The relationship with MYSELF. I did that and continue to do so in my life.
“Because if I cannot and do not love myself fully, how on earth will I expect anybody on this planet to love me?”
The only way I could achieve this was by creating consistent conversations with myself that were non-judgemental, nurturing, and empowering.
Now isn’t this something that the whole world is hungry more for day by day?
Matter of fact, let’s ask the following questions:
SO WHAT if people lead from the heart? What is going transform in the world when we consciously choose to build those influential generations?
The main reason behind me doing this work with you my believe that when the parents can become better role models for their children – better leaders – their children grow up to become better leaders. This gives them the confidence to live the lives they truly want AND make a difference in the world. Period.
And for the parents to be able to do so, they must have an extraordinary relationship and an unshakeable relationship with their own individual selves. Do you see where the domino effect starts? This creates in the world the following:
- Heart-centred action-oriented leaders are the future. We need more of them.
- People of high influence build better relationships with people who align with their vision.
- The world gets to become even more connected on a human level (not just on the Internet)
- Differences between people get to be turned from cultural weaknesses to social strengths.
- The future generations are shaping the world. We might as well empower them the right way so that they can do it better.
- You get to be an influential generation yourself that creates a positive impact in the world TODAY!
- People like you get to make internal changes within themselves in service of living an even higher quality of life.
- Entrepreneurs, companies, and organisations get to benefit from this spirit of leadership when they hire people like you and/or the coming generations.
- Societies build more trust within their communities in the presence of heart-centred.
It’s very clear that those outcomes would transform the world to the better. And it is fascinating to know that it all starts YOU. Not the outside world. This is an opportunity for any man, woman, and couple to take on so that they become INFLUENCERS OF LOVE rather than just LOVERS.
And I would be honoured and privileged to be part of this journey with you. I am committed 100% to growing the bigger “we” in this world to create a better future for all of us.